How can one person just walk away like it's nothing, while the other person is left in pain?

[crystalclear]

Its been a year since finally being divorced and its a massive rollercoaster of emotions. However I've learned so much about myself so far and continue to. Its been a really rough road but it has a silver lining that you will see when its time for you to see it. I'm still dealing with alot of the pressure as he has been horrible at coparenting. Im struggling financially to survive with two children on my own as he believes that he shouldn't give as much as a father because I'm their mother and I am sad woman who cant survive lol (meanwhile hes on his second relationship living off the women he's with) . But i am still happier than I was married to him. Less alone. It takes time to heal and I'm still healing but I can now see a little clearer and notice how distorted my mind was about my marriage and how I was truly in a bad relationship with a really broken man. I realized in today's society that divorce isnt something people understand as painful I've had no choice but to pick up my own pieces and cope alone with the pain because not everyone knows what this feels like. All I can say to you is take small steps each day to get through things and also remember this is an experience although hard as f*ck as they say but will make you a hell of a lot stronger.

[Donb]

Me and my soon to be ex husband are married for 16 months.. after all my sacrifices my patience towards him are all just nothing for him.. along the way when we move to philippines supposed to be for good and after all the problems and he’s attitude problems, being disrespectful to my mom and everything. I guess I really don’t know him very well. Love really blinds me of who really he is.. I just ignore the reality that its not going to work for both of us.. too many red flags along the way and I just ignore it because of my love for him..I think I’m the only one who really show love and respect to our marriage.. after he move out, in just one week he found a new gf and even announce it on fb...that was wow” I mean I am in pain and and for him it’s just nothing..my guess is that he only used me to get he’s PR approved in the Philippines.. and soon he can apply for citizenship.. will I guess the person who show true love and sincerity are the one that get hurts so bad..
Hopefully filling for divorce won’t be hard and I hope he will sign it as I want to be free from this heartache already and move on with my life...

[Italianjers25]

I'm going through the exact same. I feel your pain. My wife and I have been married for 6 years and together for 10. We have had a great relationship and I didnt realize that a lot of the time I would get angry and blow up at little things and then be over it in a few minutes but this was really bothering her and she said she felt like she couldn't talk to me about her feelings. I wish she would have told me sooner so I could have take ln action to change. This happened a week ago she had both our moms meet us at the house after work and she told me she want s a divorce and she is leaving the house for now. I signed up for anger management classes which I start tonight and she hasnt taken off her ring or changed in facebook pics or her status. I have been respecting her wishes by leaving her alone but she still talks to me here and there but no more I love you. I told her I will do whatever it takes to change my ways. When i suggested counseling she didnt agree to it. It is hard to be in our home night after night without her with our pets and pictures and everything from our life for the past 11 years. Does anyone think there is still hope?

[Debbie]

Hi I am just in the early stage my husband has left me after 15 years together and I am devastated. I cry continually and want to end my life. He Is so cold to me and just says we are over I am in total shock and can’t see a life without him
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