Want To Stay Married? Do This

Want To Stay Married? Do This

Top Three Tips To Keep Those Vows Forever

The skills couples need to keep intimacy alive in a long-term relationship differ from new relationship intimacy skills, and they’re not easy to learn, because people don’t talk about them. Basically, couples need to lower their expectations of romance and glamour and raise the level of fun they have together. Here are some tips to help.

1. Regular weekly talks (I call them State of the Union discussions).

These talks keep the problems minor, the resentment level down, and the communication open, so that there is time and space for intimacy. In a successful, long-term relationship, passion becomes a shared sense of humor and goodwill toward each other. The better couples know how to do this, the more they will be to work through their problems versus ignoring them.

2. Know what he (or she) needs.

Generally speaking, men value competency and problem-solving. Women value intimacy and emotional connection. The truth is that learning successful problem-solving ends fighting and power struggles, and therefore leads to more intimacy. For instance, you may think he’s focused entirely on time, power or money, but what he’s really trying to do is create enough security that he can feel safe to let his guard down.

3. Work on the intimacy.

Intimacy is the art of making your partner feel understood and accepted. When this feeling is created, barriers fall. Gentle touch, eye contact a gentle sense of humor and the right words all create the atmosphere. Positive comments on your partner’s looks or the day’s activities positively will also help. Couples disconnect when they don’t feel interested in each other anymore.

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To reconnect, make an effort to listen and understand each others’ needs and wants. The most powerful thing you can do to keep a marriage strong is to form a partnership, a team, where both parties feel respected, cared about and needed. If you really want to restore the marriage, begin not by complaining, but by seeking to understand your partner. Once the connection is there, you can begin to work out the issues.

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