Talk Yourself Out Of Divorce?

Talk Yourself Out Of Divorce?

Are You Talking The “Right Way” – 4 New Ideas To Try

Are you trying to improve your marriage? If so, here are four tips to learning how to talk to your spouse that can help you learn how to improve your communication with your spouse — and improve your relationship.

1. Talking over = diatribe.

They’ll leave at the earliest opportunity because you’re insulting them by treating them as if they’re not there. They’re thinking: “What a buffoon, I’m outta’ here at the next break.” Never do this.

2.Talking at = debate.

They feel like you’re sticking your finger in their face. They’ll either: a) hunker down in a submissive pose with their chin tucked into their neck if they’re intimidated. It’s as if they’re saying: “Please don’t be angry at me;” or b) they’ll stick their chin out at you and narrow their eyes if they’re ticked off. It’s as if they’re saying: “You can’t talk to me like that!” Do this only in a situation such as being in overtime in the seventh game of the NBA finals, your players know you respect them and you need them to execute, not think.

3. Talking to = discussion.

They’ll nod from the neck up as if to say, “Yes, that makes sense,” and may or may not follow through. This is the language of doing business as usual. Use this as your usual mode of speaking.

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4. Talking with = dialogue.

They’ll relax their shoulders and neck as if you’ve moved over to their side and put your arm around their shoulder like a loving parent or grandparent. It’s as if you’ve told them: “It’ll be okay. We can work this out.” This is the language of intimacy. Aspire to this in matters of the heart and when possible in matters of the world.

About the author: Mark Goulston, http://markgoulston.com

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