There are two phrases that resonate deep in the hallways of an addiction-ridden home. If your marriage is suffering from the consequences of addiction, the words “I don’t have a problem” or “I don’t want to talk about it” might be all too familiar.
The person struggling with addiction might be in denial of their problem or too embarrassed to speak to anyone openly. Meanwhile, their spouse might feel a responsibility to protect their reputation or the relationship by not sharing their struggles with a third party.
In both cases, neither person receives the help they desperately need, and the marriage suffers. But what would happen if the two people could decide to face addiction recovery together?
Unity is the first step to healing as individuals and as a couple. Begin the conversation about the issue and be on the same page about your progress together. As you sift through your challenges, consider a few helpful resources that will facilitate healing along the way.
Addiction Recovery Counselors
Substance abuse counselors are specifically licensed to handle individuals who struggle with drug or alcohol addictions. They have specialized training that they incorporate in their sessions and know what signs to look for to avoid a relapse. It is ideal to select a local counselor who can be ready to handle immediate situations. Meanwhile, the partner who is not personally facing addiction can hire a life coach or personal counselor who can also walk them through the relational side of handling addiction.
Since 50 percent of those who have completed an addiction recovery program are likely to relapse (especially in the first 60 days), schedule follow-up meetings with the counselor or life coach to keep an open relationship with them and to allow them to monitor the progress.
Family counselors or pastors might be another supplemental therapy method for marriages and couples with children. These kinds of counselors are trained to encourage the strengths of the family unit and support their overall wellness. Kids notice more than we realize and can feel the effects of a parent or guardian’s struggles. Scheduling regular sessions with a family counselor or a child psychologist can allow the child the freedom to release some of their emotions and concerns in a safe, healthy environment.
Addiction Recovery Facilities
Sometimes temporary separation is the healthiest option in order for the relationship and addict to heal. Of course, hospitals may be the first step depending on the individual’s medical history and condition. But there are other types of overnight facilities that assist in the management of an addict’s recovery process.
There are rehabilitation facilities that offer short-term programs that allow the patient time to cleanse their bodies through a healthy detox process. Long-term facilities, such as those that offer six-month programs, also provide a detox process but focus on healing the cause of the addiction as well. The patient is given the opportunity to build relationships with the staff and others who are also healing from similar struggles.
Finances are not always mentioned in addiction recovery, but unfortunately, they are heavily impacted by substance abuse. Not only do addicts often overspend during their addiction stages, but typically one income for the family is lost when an individual attends a long-term treatment program.
In some cases, the family can even face the toll of the fraud, due to an individual’s craving for drugs or alcohol. Family treatment programs may help give or find assistance for your financial needs or questions. You can also obtain a financial advisor to walk you through the steps to a more financially secure future.
No matter your situation, there is always hope your relationship and the health of your loved one is restorable. When you walk into recovery together, you are taking the first steps toward healing the damage of addiction. It won’t be easy, but by taking advantage of these resources and others who are willing to help you and your family, your chance of a healthy lifetime together is possible.
About the Author: After being in a car accident, Caleb Anderson developed an opiate addiction, for which he received treatment. He is in recovery today and has started RecoveryHope.org with his wife Molly. They now provide resources and support to other couples and individuals to help them face the challenges of drug and alcohol addictions.