Dr. Romance: Ending your Marriage
Relationships: 3 Tips to Know when to Get Out of your Marriage and File For Divorce
Many counselors have helped lots of couples solve difficult relationship problems, but also know it isn’t always possible. Here are three reasons to know it’s time to let it go:
1. Your partner keeps going out of bounds.
Your partner is struggling with compulsive behavior — either sexual compulsion to keep having affairs, spending money on porn, or other compulsive behaviors such as gambling, drugs, alcohol, or losing money on the stock market. If you’ve caught your spouse out of bounds before, and he or she keeps repeating the behavior, it’s an addiction that’s out of control. If your spouse won’t get proper treatment, or treatment hasn’t worked, leaving the relationship may be your only choice. Paradoxically, leaving an addicted spouse is often the only thing that breaks through the denial.
2. Violence, verbal or sexual abuse.
If you or your children are subjected to violence, verbal abuse or sexual abuse, it’s important for you to get safety for yourself and your children. Report the abuse, get a restraining order, and get out of the relationship.
3. You tried therapy — it didn’t work.
If you and your spouse have been to couples’ therapy, given it a good effort, and it didn’t fix the problems or stop your fighting and teach you to communicate, perhaps one or both of you haven’t enough motivation left to stay together.
Navigating a broken relationship — and subsequently, the territory of divorce — is tricky, but you can find help as you journey to the other side. Contact Wevorce to learn more about your options.