What Can Men Learn from Celebrity Divorces?
Divorces can be messy and devastating. And that’s often true with celebrity breakups, as they are overly publicized and involve complexities such as assets and property division as well as huge custody fights that take place under the eye of paparazzi who are hungry for money and attention.
The reasons why celebrities divorce are countless — and range from busy schedules, temptations, cultural differences, and addictions. And although the glamorous lives of celebrities seem unreachable to most people, what we all have in common is the struggle involved when dealing with matters of the heart.
Divorce is something a husband and a wife have to go through together. However, sometimes it seems that women struggle the most while going through the painful process of divorce. But it’s as difficult for men as it is for women, as they also feel the pain of leaving behind something (and someone) they’ve cherished dearly.
However, divorce is an extremity and couples should resort to it only in the case when no agreements can be reached. And if there’s still a chance to save the marriage, you’ll have to work hard on repairing the relationship. And to do that, we can use examples of famous celebrity divorces to learn what can be addressed to improve our own relationships.
Here are some examples.
Honesty — Key to a Happy Marriage
While many famous couples like Beyoncé and Jay-Z doubt that it is worth divorcing after infidelity, others aren’t so sure about trusting their other half after they’ve cheated.
It was a shock to many when the world found out that the beloved and highly-respected high-profile golf player Tiger Woods cheated on his wife Elin. Tiger Woods was exposed as a serial cheater, and soon after, his life and career seemed to fall apart. Apparently, he hid his cheating from his wife for over five years, and she claims that if he had admitted it earlier, she would have at least considered saving their marriage.
They say no marriage is safe from infidelity. Cheating is considered a breach of trust, which is why it is so hard to forgive and “get over it,” as trust is the foundation of any marriage. But, as in the case of Beyoncé and Jay-Z, if the cheater admits to his weaknesses in favor of love, there’s still a chance to save the marriage.
Support — The Cornerstone of Any Relationship
It was a shock to many when the famous Hollywood actor Chris Pratt filed a divorce from his long-time partner Anna Faris. Pratt has listed “irreconcilable differences” as the reason for divorce, however, the real reasons are usually far more complex. When their relationship started, Chris was an aspiring actor, and Anna was a Hollywood superstar. Over the years the picture has changed drastically, and Pratt, being a famous and high-demand actor now, has, in the view of some, become more popular than his wife.
Fame likely changed the way their marriage worked, and Faris reportedly wasn’t satisfied with Pratt’s behavior and said it’s hard to be in a relationship when you know someone doesn’t have your back. Apparently, Pratt’s schedule got so busy that he no longer had time to dedicate himself to his wife and son.
Support is a key to a stronger relationship. It means being able to rely on your partner during whatever you may be going through. One might think that, in the case of Pratt and Faris, the divorce may also be based on jealousy and busy schedules, but lack of support can be rather devastating — to the extent of completely ruining a relationship.
Respecting Your Spouse’s Choices
Before asking yourself whether you’re ready for a divorce, consider asking this question, “Am I always supportive of my partner’s choices?” The term “irreconcilable differences” may imply opposite interests and lack of respect for your partner’s choices.
After six years of marriage, Hollywood star Mandy Moore and her husband, rocker Ryan Adams filed for divorce. Apparently, one of their reasons for divorce was lack of mutual support and respect for what both partners wanted to do with their lives.
The thing is, even when you’re married to someone, you and your partner equally have the right to enjoy your privacy and to decide what you want to do with your own lives. You are both very different people with different personalities. You may have plenty in common but may also have different lifestyles.
The key to a happy marriage is mutual respect of your partner’s choices and being there for them at any time, anywhere. Ask yourself, “Am I always supportive and respectful?” Sometimes adjusting our attitude and perspective can be the key to a better relationship — and a worthwhile goal before you ultimately decide that a divorce is the only option.
Participating in Raising Children
Scarlett Johansson, a famous Hollywood actress, filed for divorce from her husband Romain Dauriac in 2017. Apparently, her now ex-husband was scared of being a stay-at-home dad and putting his successful career on hold to allow his wife to continue working. In this case, both parents were may bear responsibility.
Whatever their reasons were, a child often suffers when their parents are divorcing. And no matter how supportive the parents are after a divorce, it can still be a psychological trauma to live in a family without a mom or a dad.
Of course, some may think that saving a marriage because of the children you have with your partner is pointless, as they will grow up in a family with no love and respect. But if you still have strong feelings for your spouse but constantly argue over a lack of participation in raising your child, maybe it’s time to examine your parenting styles or consider counseling — maybe both.
Remember that divorce may seem like an extreme, but it’s not always a dead end. Ask yourself whether you’re doing everything you can as a husband to make your marriage work, and if there’s still a chance, put all your effort into maintaining a strong, meaningful relationship based on love, support, and respect.
About the Author: Tom Jager is a professional blogger. He works at Proessaywriting and has a degree in Law and English literature. Tom has written numerous articles/online journals. You can reach him at G+ or Facebook.