Congrats to you!As my Grandma always said, in her sweet, yet stern voice: How long you're gonna get kicked in the ass, before you turn around to see who's kickin' you?!I agree with you 100% about some of us women putting up with good-for-nothing relationships. We take a man back over and over, and continue a pattern that seems endless.Then finally we get it, and the STOP sign comes out. It takes awhile, but we get it. Patience is a virtue, tolerance a gift? It's amazing what a person will put up with because they feel they have no other options.Whether by circumstance or by ignorance. Unfortunately, I too, am guilty of the doormat syndrome. You know, Just step all over me my husband, I'll comply to you, and things will get better!Alas, dignity and self preservation, will not allow a person to continue in this fashion. Eventually you get the bitch slap from reality, finally wake up, and start to think clearly.I got many slaps before my eyes flew open! Let's just say I can see things more clearly now, with a crystal view. I've taken the blinders off, and perceive things for what they really are and not what I'd like them to be.I applaud you and truly understand your point about, when a woman is done, she is done. I am so distant from my ex husband now, because he systematically sabotaged any possible chances of me having any compassion for his sorry ass.No sympathy, no empathy. I am only civil to him because we have children. No need to repeat things of the past, every weekend when he shows up for a visit. I am done!So I wish you luck! You are traveling down a road that you need not look back upon.Peace!