I am brand new to this site today. I just happened upon it when I read an article in the paper by someone from divorce360. I have heard those dreaded words from my husband 'I love you, but I am not in love with you.' He tried to turn it around on me and say that I probably felt the same way. I love my husband more than anything, although I have a funny way of showing it he says.
I do not want a divorce. How do you make your husband fall back in love with you? He said we need to take things a step at a time and start with just being nice to each other. We have 2 young kids. Needless to say, this is not what I imagined with him. I just ordered the 5 CDs on Marriage Fitness. I hope that is a start. I really want to get back on track with our relationship and be emotionally connected again.
I almost feel like I am on some trial-basis with my husband. As if one day, he will say 'ok, I love my wife again' or 'no, it's just not working out for me.' I feel like it is unfair, like I am living in limbo. He said that is the best answer he can give me right now-that he really doesn't know what he wants, but he does want to try and save our marriage. He also told me 'I want to be happy.' To me, it sounds like he is trying to let me down gently.
Am I just grasping at straws? Is this going to turn around? I don't want this marriage to end, but I have to wonder. I know there has got to be others like me, that have heard those words from their spouse before. What did you do? Thank you for letting me share.