I am here looking for advice. Jan of 2020 i found out my partner of now 8 years had cheated that resulted with a child. We have two girls now ages 5 and 4. His son is now 15months.
We bought a home Oct of 2018. I don't know if the stress of remodeling the stress of purchasing or what made our relationship so distant. Well thanksgiving of 2018 Friday he told me he was going camping with his boy cousin. i got mad he didn't care so he left. When he came back everything was way more distant he would go out every weekend he wouldn't want to have sex. Well Dec 2018 i found messages between him and some girl. I confronted him he said they have only messaged blah bla bla. I believed it. Well now that i found out in Jan of 2020 is that she got pregnant from him. He told me the slept together 3 times. she allowed him to see the child. He was born in Sep2019 he saw the baby Oct, Dec and Jan before i found out.
I am devastated i don't believe him, im really not sure if i see a future with him. We enjoy a lot of things together but behind me head i always have that. The kid does not have his last name, and when the female found out i knew she cut ties with him and told him he would never see the kid. Well couple months ago he messaged her to see if he can see the kid and since then she allowed him to see him twice. I bugs me so much. I dont know how to cope with it. I have tried leaving him but my oldest daughter always cries for him saying she wants mommy and daddy together. And that always allows me to take him back..... Please advice.
