So my soon to be ex and the father of our two small girls had a convo last night (initiated by me) as to what the future holds in terms of him moving out (he now lives in the basement) and financial stuff as well. He is also looking to move out of state since all the tech jobs are in a certain area near us but it’s close enough so he’ll only drive about 2 hours and he’ll see the kids every other weekend. I’ve tried to tell him that counseling is working for me and I would like to give us another try because I realize I wasn’t always there for him emotionally. His answer is always I love you but not in the way I should love you.
So after that talk I actually felt a tad better and what not. So the next morning he came into the room to take his usual shower and I turned away like I have for the past two weeks so he can turn on the light to get dressed. He said are you sure? and I jokingly replied well, I’ve seen you naked for the last 9 years and we’llProbably end up sleeping with each other before you move out to which he replied you didn’t seem interested.Last night when we were talking you were all covered upIn you blanket. The he said don’t you think the people we might date would have a problem with that? and I told him we’re ok until the divorce and he nodded his head and left for work.
I’m not looking for any deep meaning here, but why would he ask for a divorce, tell me we have no chance of getting back together, make plans to move and then was thinking I wasn’t acting like I was interested in having sex with him?? He’s a very sweet, down to earth guy and this threw me for a loop. I know a lot of men can separate sex and love, and knowing me I wouldProbably get my hopes up that it means that he wants to work on our relationship when he in fact has one foot out the door. But he’s never been the type of guy who would do such a thing. Totally baffled by this. Thoughts?