Last October, my wife of 18 years decided she was done with the marriage. Starting chasing after 19 year old, etc. The whole midlife crisis thing. She abandoned the bed on October 26th, and we haven’t slept together since. She’s tried since then to stick me for money, but has failed at every turn as her divorce has no grounds.
In April, we agreed to allow each other to have outside relationships, as we knew our marriage was over. This was done verbally, outside the court system. Anyhow, the both of us are in a hurry to get this over with. After our relationship agreement, I pursued a relationship with another woman, and did consummate that relationship.
My wife and I have already signed a separation agreement which includes her waiving all right to alimony, and 50/50 custody of our children. We are both OK with this arrangement. My question is this: If I owned up to technically committing adultery, could that harm me at this point?
Does the 3rd party need to get involved? My wife pretty much knows I’ve done this, and she knows who I’ve done it with. She does’t really care either. But she cannot prove it. If I don’t own up, we’ve got to wait another 8 months for the divorce to be final. If I do, it’s an immediate divorce.