Well said, Andrea. Separating gives you the space to feel your true feelings. If you end up missing the other person, that's a sign to keep trying. If you are continually relieved they are gone, well, that's another thing all together. So many of us marry before we truly know who we are, and realize too late we are not compatible with the other person. Not enough soul searching beforehand, and too much settling sometimes. Separation can also give you a chance to be the person you've been stifling.....and THAT person might just be the difference in saving your marriage. I've had friends that just needed a breather, and were so much better together with their spouse after figuring themselves out. It all comes down to doing what's best for you and your spouse and family, and blocking out all the naysayers and other pressures. Love yourself, and then you can love others.