BB - I didn't bring up your past - YOU DID. But once again, if it going to get back into a between you and me thing, post to my wall. Haboo - one thing you have to do, and it is hard, is realize the relationship he has with you, and the things he did to you, are separate from his relationship with his child. He may not love or respect you and how you feel anymore - but he will always love his daughter, and she him, and if he hurts her feelings, he's going to care about making it right after his head comes out of his ass. Understand that in the sane part of his brain, he knows that soon, he's not going to be with his daughter every day, that life has he knew it, is about to drastically change and there isn't a damn thing he can do about it. It may have really hit home that night all of you were arguing. I deal with a lot of difficult, aggressive manly men in court every day - who are awful when it comes to their stbx's - but are total teddy bears when it comes to their kids - and the mom's don't understand when I grant 50% custody, or other types of generous visitation time, because they can't separate the behavior. You have said yourself he is not a predator and you don't get any feeling he'd do anything bad to his child - so mama bear needs to stay in her cage and let dad and daughter have tender moments, especially if you don't want to see your custody fight turn into a huge battle. Deal with issues that make your daughter uncomfortable, not what makes you uncomfortable.