Why not???? I told my STBX in the beginning of our seperation that I better not find out that he has been with anywhile else while we are supposed to be working on our marriage. He asked what I wanted him to do for his manly relief. I told him to come to me. No strings attached. (of course I wanted strings, but I would rather him come to me than to be whoring around). So we have several times. But it's just a screw. As soon as he's done, he leaves the house. He won't stay to visit or anything. So yes, I am being used, but I did ask for it to be that way. We have to get it from somewhere, and I would rather get it from the man I am still technically married to, than anywhere else.