Your divorce decree is required to start the QDRO process. In addition to that, whoever prepares the QDRO needs statements from every retirement account on the date that is specified in the decree for those assets to be split. Sometimes it's the filing date, sometimes it's the date the divorce is final, in our case, it was the first day of the month I moved out, about a year and a half before the divorce was filed. Ex and I had an e mail exchange and a phone call in which we decided to send copies of statements to the QDRO preparers ourselves rather than sending them through the attorneys. The QDRO firm didn't like that, so I suggested that we send a set to them and to each of our attorneys with cover letters explaining what we were doing. That was acceptable, so we spent a few hours evening in my home office typing, copying and collating. I mailed the documents the next day. The hard, and time consuming, part, as I understand it, is making sure that the language in the QDRO matches the language of the retirement plans and follows the rules of those plans. About three months later, the QDRO firm had preliminary numbers. One of ex's statements was dated the end of the previous month instead of the first of the month we agreed to split the assets. We had to sign off on that being okay with both of us and that we wouldn't go back to the court or the QDRO firm to fix it later. Yes, I did my best grrl from the hood head wagging - like it matters - but it does. It's been about six weeks since that. I have to get in touch with my attorney about something else tomorrow, and I'll add an inquiry about QDRO progress. The other matter's going to take all of five minutes on the phone with him - I'm going to be billed for fifteen - why not get my money's worth?We're here for you.