Hi everyone. I’m a stepmom of two awesome kids. A is 8 and S is 5. I’ve been married to my husband for a few months but we’ve been together for a little over two years. I’ll cut to the chase : the situation with his ex is really rough. We’ve tried co-parenting but it’s just not working. Between the nasty texts, trying to control what goes on in our home, lashing out at the kids when they don’t do what she wants them to when their on our time, lashing out at us when we decline to do her activities on our time, it’s just a mess. About two weeks ago we decided to be done communicating unless it was an emergency when she sent a really awful long texts attacking my husband and calling me some colorful names. We came to the conclusion that speaking with her and trying to figure things out just doesn’t work. So we found out about parallel parenting. Where you basically explain to the kids you have your rules in your home and the other parent doesn’t decide what happens and vice versa. We also decided when she sends nasty texts claiming the kids feel xyz that we would just speak with them directly and calmly and leave her completely out of it. No replying to her and no talking to the kids about what she said. In addition we decided to no longer address what goes on in her home. She’s in an off and on again relationship with her boyfriend and has been telling the kids to call him dad as well as speaking poorly about us. We just have straight up decided to not comment on that or address it with her but tell the kids. And if they tell us anything unless it’s really alarming we don’t mention it to her. Does anyone have any tips on this??? I just know that she is a really hurt/angry person and there is just no reasoning and it always makes things worse. I just want to give the kids an ounce of normalcy.