Well, if you've tried everything that you can think of, and you haven't made friends, there are a few things to check:Do you present yourself as someone who's friendly? Shoulders hunched and a hangdog expression aren't attractive, nor is the deer in the headlights expression. I know it's hard to do when you're anxious and depressed. Do you have conversation topics in mind? I found that reading Time magazine or a daily newspaper helps - as trite as it sounds, several conversations with folks today started with comments about the weather (reception areas and waiting rooms - I didn't start the conversations).I live near NYC. My general feeling is that lots of folks are here for the money or because they were raised here - and have family and friends enough. Joining a bowling league gets you companionship for a few hours at the bowling alley, for example. Could be that you're in a similar situation. I've found, and this was long before my divorce, that most adults need to have relationships on the acquaintance level for a long time (years) before they're willing to be more than polite or neighborly. It's just the way it is.What do you mean by friends? I have three honest-to-God friends - who have their own families and their own lives, and can't always be there for me (one lives a five-hour drive south). My family moved every two years growing up, and I always knew that I wouldn't have friends from kindergarten when I got to be in my 30's. My siblings and I are the only ones who share the same history.If it's you, therapy can help. DivorceCare might help you get over your divorce, though I'm understanding divorce as a kind of major surgery that leaves a scar. The pain will stop, I am getting back to the baseline I had before surgery, and the scar will fade.We're here for you.