I have a 4 year old daughter and have been divorced before and now am a stepmother of a 2 year old daughter. I have felt uneasy for quite a while about the way my husbands ex wife acts towards him. She calls or texts him on a daily basis even when their daughter is not with us. He sometimes tells me what the call text was about and it is usually nothing important. I feel like she just wants to stay in his life and make her presence known all the time.
We both work a lot so I don't even know how much she calls or texts when we aren't together other than the times he tells me. She texts random things like your daughter just did the funniest thing... or someone just called your daughter a daredevil. She takes after you!
Am I being paranoid? I have voiced my concerns to my husband and he says it's just the way she is. I'm not sure if he encourages it by engaging in a full conversation or why she always has to be there every single day. They have a civil relationship where they keep each other informed of their daughter and when he drops her off he gives her a full detailed report of his time with her.
I feel the excessive communication has put tension on our relationship. Any suggestions as to how to describe the way I feel without him thinking I want all contact cut off? My ex and I have a civil relationship too where we can talk about our daughter but not anywhere as near much as they do.