It seems like every time something doesn't go her way, my husband's ex develops some type of ailment. In the last year, she has sought medical attention for several female problems (of which she claimed required surgery, but mysteriously never had it), high BP, carpel tunnel, countless allergies, migraines - not to mention, she catches every cold and flu bug that goes around. Her latest thing is a overnight clinic visit so they can monitor her while she sleeps.
This self-proclaimed brainiac is a very heavy smoker who doesn't eat well or exercise and she pops OTC pills for everything. For someone who boasts well-above average intelligence, you would think by now she would have figured out that taking better care of herself might alleviate a lot of these symptoms. Since we have the kids each time she has a medical crisis, it hasn't been difficult to keep track of the pattern. Interestingly, these problems always seem to occur right around some sort of emotional period.
Most recently, my husband had words with her - she has been trying to push my him into spending excessive money on one of the kids for something he does not believe is necessary. He called her out on the BS and has avoided talking to her as much as possible. As a result, she came up with a new health crisis so he has to talk to her. The same thing occurred last Spring when her BP went up. My husband wasn't doing something she wanted and suddenly, she was ill. It's almost as if the stress of not getting her way triggers symptoms. The doctors told her to quit smoking as a result (duh), but now she smokes more than ever - and the health issues have continued. It's disgusting - she uses these problems in an attempt to get my husband's sympathy yet her unhealthy lifestyle is a major factor.
While he's not sympathetic, he does worry about his kids. His daughter has become such a hypochondriac that he can't ever tell what is real and what is embellished any more. It's almost as if her mother has taught her that if you're sickly, you will always get attention. She is a really good kid so my husband is hopeful that it's a phase that she'll grow out of. Has anyone ever had a similar experience? If so, how did you deal with it? My husband keeps reminding me that we only have a few years left to deal with her and then he can block her in his phone . I just wish the BS would stop.