My mom found out about my dad's affair a month after his death. She is heartbroken and devastated. Seeing her like this makes me so sad. She gave him everything. She was always there for him in ways that he could never 'repay' her. -- Seeing my mom try to figure out when everything started and how he found the time to do it is absolutely hard to see. There was this one instance when we went on a family vacation in 2016... my mom and dad got in a fight so me, my mom, and sibling all went to my mom's side of the family. We stayed with them for three days. Looking back at it, my dad was all alone in the condo... That could've been a chance for them to meet up. Three days! During this same vacation, my mom was admitted to the hospital when her friends visited her... At the end of the night, my dad offered them a ride. He didn't get back until early morning... He used giving them a ride as an excuse and of course, Manila traffic, to meet up with his mistress....All while my mom was in the hospital.
Apparently back in Dec. 2018, my dad messaged a mutual friend asking about his mistress... so know that they were broken up that time, since they were no longer speaking. My dad did mention something really hurtful though. He said to his friend, "I really do love her." Reading that makes me so mad!!! How could you say that when my mom has done everything for you?!!!!! We never saw this coming. My dad was messed up in so many ways, but I never knew that he could betray my mom like this. In July 2018, he broke his foot. My mom dropped everything all at once for him... Took off from work and took care of him. Who would think that just 5 months after, he would confess to his friend that he still loved his mistress.
My mom faced heart problems in 2017. It was literally a life or death situation for her then. Why didn't my dad break it off with the mistress then?! My mom keeps thinking about this, and I can't help but think about it as well. How could he do this to her?! To his family!!!
In March 2019, my mom asked for a divorce (not because of infidelity, she didn't know then!). He didn't want to because he said he loved my mom, he didn't want a broken family... He said he loved us all. My mom stuck with him. In August 2019, my dad had a heart attack. My mom once again dropped everything to take care of him. Growing up, I really did see the love my mom had for my dad. She was her everything. She was loyal. She took care of our family, she went above and beyond as a wife and mother. In March 2020, my dad died of a hemorrhage stroke. A month later, we found out of his affair. Until now.... after finding about his betrayal... my mom still continues to pray for him, fix his memorial table, etc.