I have been marriaged to my husband for 3yrs now as of the beginning of Oct. This July, he told me that he was unhappy and doesnt know if he wanted to stay married. This Sept., he told me he wanted a divorce cause things were not working out between us. I begged him to reconsider cause we had been going to therapy for a few weeks.
A week later I looked through his phone and saw that he had been having an affair with a girl while I was away at work (I’m a flight attendant and was based in NY). I had already asked him several times for weeks if he was cheating and he told me no. After I was the text messages, I asked him again and he told me no. By this time, I was in a stand of peace and seem to be in a cheerful and optimisic mood. the optimisic I got, the cold he became towards me.
The following night, I looked at the phone records online and noticed that he and this girl had been messing around since the beginning of Aug, and that he had her over my house while I was in NY working. Days when I would come home the month of Aug, I noticed that my belongings were either moved or hidden. I confronted him about it and told him I was moving out. I cut everything that was in my name expect the cell.
The next week I started training as flight attendant for another airline and was emotional stressed I’m surprised I passed the class. Well, in the last few days he bought another phone cause he didnt want to help me pay our bill, he avoided my texts. Today we spoke and he told me that he was unhappy since the beginning of our marriage and that he has filed. He feels now that I’m at my new job I can start over in the city I’m based out of and he can be happy without me. I’m beyond hurt.
I thought we would last forever and I still want to be with him. Sorry for the long story but all of this has happened between the end of July 2012 to now (Oct. 2012). I guess my question would be is, is it possible that we can work out, even after the divorce or is it over and done with? Both my dad and his mom said don’t rush with the divorce and his mom said he may come back cause the grass is not always greener on the other side. I’m an emotional wreck and don’t know what do to.