...acts like she isn't. His ex, that is. A little background; My boyfriend and his ex-wife have 2 kids, they've been divorced for appx 6 years. According to my boyfriend she cheated on him twice, was terrible with money, had no focus or ambition. They get along well now, in his words they're better as friends than as spouses together. I think it's great, for the kids' sake, that they have a good relationship.
Here's what bugs me; when she drops the kids off or picks them up she waltz' into his house like she still lives there. No knocking, no calling hello. The other night we were upstairs, the kids in their room, my boyfriend and I were on the floor playing with our one year old. All of a sudden she appeared at the top of the steps and sat down on the floor with us and our son...leaving the baby gate open, that was just an added aggrivation. She goes into the kids room in my boyfriends' house and takes clothes or sometimes pieces of furnature...which he then has to replace. She still has personal items stored in his basement, including her wedding dress from when they were married. She's always dropping the kids off when there's something she wants to do, or if we have plans with them she says she needs to pick them up early. She's always bugging him for more money "for the kids," support isn't enough so he also pays for school activities, lunches, after school activities, gifts, clothes.
Meanwhile I get no financial support for our son while I struggle. Frankly, he can't afford it because his other two kids get everything. We've discussed this and his comment was if he splits the support 3 ways then she'll just take him to court for more money...that he doesn't have. I get along with her, we're friendly with each other...mostly because I don't want to cause any trouble for my boyfriend. He said his last girlfriend hated his ex-wife and hated that they had a friendly relationship and he appreciates that I can get along with her. But it's eating at me.
I would never, NEVER, assume I could just walk into my ex's house like I owned the place. I know the ex factor is something I'm stuck dealing with, and I'm okay with that. I guess I'm just looking for some words of wisdom from anyone who's been there, done that.