I have been married for over 10 years, 2nd marriage for both of us. During this time - My husband slowly 'de prioritize' our relationship and marriage as a result of the next crisis, another work issue, forgotten appointments, his children's sporting events.....
Over four years ago I recognized this trend and brought it to his attention. He agreed and promised to keep our relationship and marriage as his number 1 priority. He has not been able to keep the promised, even a little bit, even with therapy.
Now I find myself living a bad version of groundhog day - disappointed, mad, hurt, frustrated, defeated - For some reason I think THIS TIME he will keep his promise, this is the time he won't be late, this time he really will pay the bill.
I love him but can't handle the up and downs that come with him. Any suggestions and/or insight - I can't imagine another ten years of this 'toxic' relationship