I need some advice on how to handle the lies that my ex is telling his family, friends, coworder, and our kids about me. I know in my head that he will do what he wants and I have no control over what he does. But hearing that he's telling all of them that I have had a boyfriend for a long time and that is why I divorced him, that I have always chosen my family over my kids, and that I'm fake, never loved him and used him, and the list goes on and on. None of which is true! I can't stand that he is allowed to say those things and apparently there are now some that believe it as they are not speaking to me. Especially when he was abusive, controlling, and horrible to be around and that's why I had to get away from him.
He is now trying to get in a competition to show me that he will be the first to be in a long term relationship to convince himself and others that he was not to blame for anything but it was all me. He is still bullying me even after the divorce, because he gets so nasty and mean that I change my behavior to avoid his tirades! Is this what my life is going to be like from now on? I can't stand the daily nastiness and lies. I've tried avoiding all contact expect what is necessary about the kids, we only talk or text a couple times a week, but he seems to find another way to get at me - kids' games, concerts, thru his friends.
Sorry, I am venting now, but I'm so exhausted and can't imagine doing this with him for the rest of our kids' lives. I thought that when I got away from him that I would finally have some peace. It seems so much worse now! Atleast when I was still with him, his focus was on all the other people he was angry at. Now it's focused all my and my family 24/7. How you can hate someone to the depths of your soul that at one time you thought you loved.....