You're not alone, I have tremendous regrets over my divorce.I refused any counselling or marriage therapy, convinced by mom my ex was emotionally abusive. I needed to escape his abuse, not prolong things with therapy, I could not get divorced fast enough.My ex went to marriage counseling, by himself, for our entire separation and months after the divorce was final. He BEGGED me to take him back and gave up everything to give our marriage a chance, even moving to Georgia. I refused to speak to him, I was not going to be abused or controlled anymore!I LOVED the attention I got while divorcing. Women telling me how brave and courageous I was to leave. Men hitting on me. Divorcing felt great! Everyone is sooo supportive of you when you are leaving your abusive husband,Years later I know the truth was that I had ADD and was depressed. It just HAD to be someone else's fault. There are no sources that argue that it might not actually be emotional abuse, they all say don't be in denial, if you suspect abuse or feel belittled or bad about yourself, it is abuse. Online articles paint the picture that any time a spouse fights, questions another, or makes a wife feel bad or sad, its abuse. That's just simply not true.I finally got diagnosed with ADD and Depression a couple years after my divorce. Those were the real problems in my marriage. I went back to school, and a few years later, I became a therapist myself (how ironic).I actually learned what emotional abuse was, and realized that my ex wasn't abusive. I work with struggling couples all the time. My ex was a better husband than 99% of my clients, yet they OFTEN work it out and are very happy years later.Now I know I threw away my husband because I could not admit to myself that I was suffering from depression or ADD.Reality is If I had put ANY effort into saving my marriage we would have. I still love him and I regret how I treated him. He remarried, and I can't fix it. Movin On! But with regrets.