Honey, a very wise woman once said to me, Let go, or get dragged. I think this applies to you.I've worked in education for longer than I care to admit. I've been really close to and fond of some of the kids I've worked with over the years. No I've never crossed a line, and honestly, all the kids I've worked with are my favorite them, because there will never be another like them. I wonder about how they're doing, and whether or not they've achieved their dreams. I know it can be tough to not have the answers. It has to be enough to know that you've been a part of their lives and to know that you did the best you could with your time with them. I've had a few kids look me up on the internet - they're older now, and we've exchanged e mail addresses. Some have sent Christmas cards and photos of their families. It's nice when it happens, and it may very well happen to you one day with your step kids. You need to step aside and let them live their lives with their parents and new steps. It's hard, but do-able.