I got married with my childhood friend after 10 years of friendship and 6 months of relationship all through phone calls . But we were friends since our 3 years old. We NEVER planned or thought we would get married ever in our life .
I'm in so much stress and my new born baby girl was born in December 28 , 2020.
He flew from our country when I was 4 months pregnant . He is now in Germany . After my delivery he suddenly started to ignore me like anything. He is busy with another calls with who ever I don't know when I used to call / text / give him our new born girl's photo videos. He ignored everything . We had big fights after all his negligence and sudden massive change. He is blaming me I'm a cheater , lier and worst human being . I have zero quality of being his life partner and he has zero trust on me . He assumed and accused a lot more worst blames to me. About my life before marriage , after marriage and even during my pregnancy and now after my delivery with my new born . He has gone totally mad or I don't know but the way he is approaching me I can over surely feel he is having extra marital affairs because he stayed only 5 months with me after marriage and 8 months it had been he is staying apart.
I don't have any proof .
He doesn't have any proof . But I don't and can't trust him due to his such ignorance which he didn't clarify and his approach towards me and our new born baby.
He didn't even come to see our baby and he said finally before blocking me permanently that he won't continue marriage with me . He is waiting when I'll file divorce papers and send to him . He will sign on that . He won't be sure if he will maintain our child or co-parenting nothing .
He makes no contact with me forever.
When we were together after marriage and before our marriage too with long distance relationship he was such type of person who claimed and emphasized himself he is virgin . He wants to marry a virgin girl who NEVER even touched any man in her life in reality or dream . Before marriage He used to send his private parts to me to check whether I do the same or not . After marriage too he physically abused me and the way he was maintaining with me , a husband wife relationship is not like that. I doubt how could he now control his physical need now after 8 months of staying apart.
He used to give me video / audio call and asked for my naked / live to excite him and he used to masturbate . He claimed himself he is a strict Muslim and he NEVER placed him in bed with someone else. He NEVER cheated on me as a husband emotionally and physically . He has female friends, colleagues and flatmates too but he even had relationship with them he didn't sleep with them . And I had to trust him he boldly told me . Once I called his number one female German even received the call and talked to me when he was in his bedroom . I had saved that record too . But now his sudden changes forced me to believe he is creating issues because he is cheating now . I don't see any hope . I want to live for my baby . Day by Day I'm getting sick mentally and his abusive torture with silent treatment of no contact is getting my nerve that he is a narcissist .
I want to remove my uterus through hysterectomy
He knows it . I told him about
My fibroid uterus . It is scattered now . My gynaecologist tried to remove some but she told me after two years later I won't be able to conceive ever any babies in future.
When I informed it him during my post partam period and still now I'm bleeding so terribly . He wanted to see my figure it was last on January before beginning of all fights . When he saw my ugly body , he told me he is not sure about it whether we will go for second baby or not within 2 years. Now he doesn't want me neither want to save marriage .
So difficult for me . Why would I hurt myself keeping my tumors inside . Better will be for future that I remove it now.
He was made of that complicated soil he won't be able to reach out. I don't know about soul but he is spoiled totally . His father wants to beat him . Wants me to be strong. Wants me to get full rights through this for me and my baby . His father is gentleman and his Stepmom too so sweet and innocent , but his maternal aunt is the main route of all disturbance that had been created to ruin our relationship among everyone else in his family . We had a long session of meeting in his father's home . His uncle aunts from maternal paternal both agreed to it . They are all supporting me .
I gave him my few closer medical classmates friends contact number. He didn't even talk to them but he is making mathematical calculations and accusing me so badly about my past and about my character without any proof .
It had been 3 months after my delivery , my husband is giving me silent treatment. He is not talking to me, no contact with my family and his family even. He is not providing our child maintenance. My parents are forcing me to file for divorce but I need time .
Now he won't come back , he wished me not to bother him by sending baby's photos videos anything regarding baby and I can't win him by force , emotion, threats . He at most only can remain friend of mine but won't give divorce , I must forget him, stop thinking about him and he will acknowledge that if I give him Divorce that means I found better person than him. According to his belief I'm such a worst human being I am expert in mixing truth and lies. I have zero quality of being his life partner, he has zero trust on me, my past haunts him specially now after our marriage & baby's birth.
Even he told me lastly if he dies now I don't need to visit his dead body. From his family I mean my in laws asked him why he is making drama now , why he has no affection for baby , he replied them that he couldn't understand before our marriage that I was so bad person but now he understands. He stopped sending child maintenance from last month.