Does anyone miss being married? I'm sure they do. I mean, there's stuff about it I'm sure they don't miss, like being controlled or cheated on or having an "allowance", having to be the only one who did anything around the house or the only one taking care of the kids, stuff like that. But there's gotta be stuff about it they miss (and no, I don't just mean sex). Now, my ex was an uber ass, but there's things I miss about being married.
I miss having someone to come home to. That was always nice, even though we didn't get along all that great in the mornings before work, I think we truly missed eachother during the day and looked forward to seeing eachother at the end of a long, grueling day at work. At least I did. It was the one time we got along. We would sit down at the island in the kitchen across from eachother and talk about our day. Or usually, he would sit; I would start cooking while he flapped his gums about his "know-nothing boss". I miss that. I miss having a TV buddy. My ex and I didn't agree on much. But when it came to TV shows, there was little we disagreed on. we liked the same type of shows. Sitcoms were our favorite. And we'd curl up next to eachother with blankets and and eat ice cream watch our favorite shows until we fell asleep. Sometimes he'd fart on me. But it was all in good fun. Gross, but fun. For the record, I don't miss the farting--just the "hanging out" on the couch watching our TV, not arguing about anything.
I miss having someone warm and safe to sleep next to. My ex and I rarely slept apart, except when we had a bad fight, then he'd sleep on the couch. But we usually slept together. I miss that. I miss having "family functions" with my ex. My ex never really went to any of my extended-family's functions (he didn't like my family), but I miss traveling to his mom's house and seeing all his family, and laughing and conversing and especially his grandma's cooking. I miss that.
I miss someone being the "man" of the house. I always felt secure when I was with him. I liked knowing that if someone broke into our house in the middle of the night, I wouldn't have to be the brave one. I wouldn't have to be courageous. That's what my ex was supposed to be. And I liked knowing that if something went wrong, like the drains being clogged or the water heater punking out, I wasn't the one who had to fix it. My ex and I had a deal: I cooked, cleaned, birthed and took care of the children, did laundry, (all while working full-time) and he fixed stuff that broke. Of course, he had to fix stuff far less often than I had to do my chores, so it was a lopsided deal, but whatever. It worked out. Now, when stuff breaks, I either have to fix it or call the maitenance people and hope they come to fix it. That was my ex's job. Now it's mine.
I miss someone else driving. I don't like to drive. It was nice sitting in the passenger seat for a change. Except when my ex would drive like an ass and scare me. But that's another story for another day. I hated driving and it was nice when he'd drive. Most of the time. I miss having 2 incomes. I don't think any further explaining is necessary for this one. I just miss that. Simply put, I hate having to be both the man and the lady of the house.
Does anyone miss that? I mean, as good as it feels to be free of his controlling, belittling behavior (oh, it feels so good!), I do miss certain things about being married. That's all. I wouldn't go back into it. Ever. But I miss it.