My wife and I had an 8 year marriage that ended in divorce a year ago.
we spent more time apart than together. I traveled and worked overseas, while she sat home and did little to broaden or engage in life.
although i used her address as my home address we never shared a common goal, and learned to be partners, her Military background would never allow her to accept or change to blend our bond of dreams and make them a reality.
After returning home, I realized that i had thrown away my dreams just for her happiness. i bought my home and she filed for divorce,
i had my happiness in sight only to have it rudely interrupted by her.
the turmoil created by her dashing into and out of my life only to have sex made me miserable. she was interrupting my life in a very destructive way and prolonged the pain to accepting that the relationship/ marriage was over.
Dealing with the evolving and changing of a partner is a mutual growth opportunity that sharing and communicating can work out,
hurt and pain are sure to follow, but the growth that you will see by acceptance is invigorating and truly self enriching