I am going through this exact same thing!!!! I wish there was a way to talk privately with you. My stbx was cheating on this woman for over a year. He finally moved up there around xmas time. And guess what? Now he told me she's due to give birth to their new baby in the summer! AND he wants my 5&7 year olds in the ROOM w/her for the birth!!! I about fainted. This woman is married too. She basically kicked out her husband one day, and brought my husband in the next day. Disgusting. He just called me today ranting about the divorce papers. The kids have spent only 1 time there overnight. She's got two kids of their own, and they are so upset. Even my kids, they think you move in w/ your best friend and have babies instead of the traditional route, which is what our religion taught us. Now he's just abandoned all those things and ran off with this girl. My kids are so confused cause stbx just calles g/f his best friend. OMG. Just so many issues. I wish I could prevent overnights too. My stbx moved 3 hours away and now he wants 50/50 custody. Well, it's not possible now my lawyer said. And he wants them all summer. He thinks he has the better home' for them, when in fact I've been here for 2 years, with my parents. since I got sick with cancer. He never stepped in then to take them. Why now? Now he wants to fight for sole custody. I told him go ahead, he'll just upset his kids. He slaps my daughter, he calls my son a ■■■ and my son hates going there. So many isses, but I know what you're going through. I don't know what to do. I left a message for lawyer today, no call back. Now I get to wait till Monday. Wonderful. You pay all this money and you never can talk to the lawyer...another issue!!!! Well, good luck with yours and let us know how it turns out. I wish I could talk to you more in depth about this.