First off I wanna say it takes a man to still wanna fight for his marriage after an affair has been issued to. Forgiveness, forgiveness, forgiveness is what you’ve portrayed and that’s all fine and dandy but as a man we somewhat deal with things differently. We cheated and is was because we were bored, immature, annoyed with our lady, needed to feel “alive”, wanted to see if we still had the playa ways we once did and etc. She in return, cheated out of anger, feeling emotionally deprived from you, wanted to feel desired again, and etc. I don’t quite think she loved the guy she cheated with. Most of the time it’s not necessarily a love thing. More so of a lust thing. Lust can be cameflouged with desire just to talk or be heard or to feel important and then she(women) find themselves in an affair that truly wasn’t a desire at all now. But will definitely blame YOU for it. “If you would have been there for me I wouldn’t have went to another man”, “You didn’t care about me anyways so it pushed me to another person’s arms” and so on. But you are her husband which still leaves you with authority on your end. Even if she doesn’t want it right now you have the authority to create yourself over again. Even better this time. I’m not trying to preach to you but let me just preach really quick: I think a lot of this confusion and turmoil has to do with you/her not putting Jesus Christ at the center of your relationship. Without God marriage wouldn’t exist anyways. God honors marriage. The enemy doesn’t honor it. The enemy wants to destroy it. Anything good he tries to confuse and end. But God loves marrriage and even though you failed due to cheating as well as your wife God can redeem it all. He can make your marriage stronger than it was prior to the problems that came about. Your wife still loves you. I don’t doubt that. But she’s hurt. Men think more so logically and simple. Women are complexsive. They will hurt from a man’s betrayal much longer and greater than us men will ever. I recommend she gets counseling and if she’s up to it you both get counseling because proper and Godly counseling could be the answer. Some relationships are waaaaaaay worse than yours, trust me. It’s possible for reconciliation but it takes 2. Don’t worry if she won’t come around this second. If you try God, pour out to Him, let Him know the desires of your heart(To fix and restore your marriage completely) and realize that He is able your marriage can be saved. Remain prayerful to God and respectable to her despite her hurt and how she may treat you. True character is defined by how someone acts when things aren’t going their way...Bless up!