Hi I am new to this online support group, I have been in a similiar situation recently, my partner of 26 years cheated on me and had a baby with another woman, who has another 2 kids from different fathers.
He was such a coward, he could'nt even tell me himself, I had to hear it from someone else and the baby was already 6 months old and he went on living with me like nothing happened. He had the time to tell everyone around me but not me. I asked him why did'nt he tell me when he found out she was pregnant and he said it whould'nt have made a difference.....that was like rubbing salt into the would. Even brought this woman, the baby and her mother into our house(while I was still living there, but maybe went out to visit friends) to show off his baby to the neighbours. We had a stillborn baby in 2011 and I misscarried in 2013l. He knew how much I wanted kids. To do this is so cruel and humiliating..
Needless to say, the same day I found out I left, I was devastated, felt like my heart and soul was torn from by body, as i loved him unconditionally. He wanted us to raise the child together, told me it was a one night stand, but I don't believe him. He has lied to me before. I refused to be in the middle of his baby mama drama and put myself in more emotional trauma.I left with what little dignity I had left. The woman has since basically moved in with him, with no shame at all. I am so disgusted.
I also had a few sessions with a clinical psychologist. I am living with my best friend for 5 months now since I left and she and her husband have been amazingly supportive as well as my family. I have wasted half my life with him, cannot waste another half. It's still hard but everyday I am away from him I can see what he really is, master manipulator.
It still hurts, but I am determined to move on even if I have to start from scratch. I would rather be alone than with someone who lies and has no respect for me.