How long can a marriage go without sex?

[Deelee]

Between now and dead,is this what you want your life to be?

[Thatman33601]

I've been married 5 years together for 7. At first it was fine. The first year we got married it quickly dropped off. 2 years no kissing, nothing. I tried to instigate and she would push me away. Tried cooking fancy dinner candles even full body massages. I'm going on a year and a half again. I'm not sure what to do. I've given up trying to be romantic. I know she loves me and cares about me. She tells me how grateful she is to have me. I'm confused.

[Fay]

I am new here but this story sounds like my life. Just I am the wife. My husband and I had a bery good sex life and then we got married. I knew something was wrong on the wedding day already because of the fact that he ran to the bathroom to throw up immediately after we were pronounced husband and wife. Then he seemed to avoid me the rest of the wedding day. Then on our honeymoon I definitely knew something was not right because I had to basically beg to be intimate and he also actually rejected me. We were intimate for all of 1 time on our 2 week honeymoon. Fast forward a 17years. We have a 15 year old a d last time we were intimate was perhpas once when we conceived her and about twice when she was still a baby. Therafter nothing. The second time we were intimate it did hurt and I am not sure why. He says he loves me etc and that I am being silly. But yet he still does not show interest in me. We live out of each other's pockets too and I dont think he is being unfaithful. But I am not sure how much longer I can go on like this. Is this what my life is and going to be...
I am too scared to leave because I know we will lose the house. My mom lives with us as well as my daughter's friend who's mom is going through a tough time. So I have them depending on me. Do I just accept that my life is over and try and provide a life for them...

[Robert]

Hi Fay,
Thank you for your reply. I can totally sympathise with what you you are going through. It has been two years since my post and everything is unfortunately exactly the same. I suppose that I am just resigned to the fact that this is the way things are and probably always will be.
In the two years since I posted not a single reply from anyone until your reply yesterday, so thank you for replying. I had not actually considered the situation from a woman's perspective but I suppose we are all human at the end of the day.
Take care Fay and I hope that one day things will improve for you.
Robert