How long can a marriage go without sex?

[damax]

I have been married for 13 years this year and together with my wife for 15 years. We have not had sex in the last 11 years - so 11 years without sex. It's really hurting me but I did not think about until the last year when I realised that there are others out there. It's sad. Right now, I am working on ways to end the marriage as I don't think there are ways to fix it. Right now I am suffering from depression and my wife had not been well.

[maryslittlelamb]

but how did you manage for all those years. didn't you ask for it and if you did how did you respond ?

[maryslittlelamb]

some women when you talk about this will tell you that the man is lying. its easy to believe the are lying about not having sex for years but I have read quite a lot about men saying these things happen.

[Maxmamakmw]

I’m so depressed that tomorrow looks like it may never come . It’s been 6 years for me . He doesn’t even kiss me except a peck . He says he loves me ( really?) and says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me ( really ?) words mean nothing to me anymore . It’s not always the woman holding out sex! I feel so alone .

[Maxmamakmw]

6years here. I’m so feeling your depression . I hate to read she is not doing well . That doesn’t help anything for you right now. I’m new to here and cannot believe how many people are feeling the same ways .

[Bay]

So sorry to hear of this. Can a man go 10 years without sex? This guy I like. Told me him and his wife has not had sex in 10 years. She's sick, he says.

[Honeybee]

Well, I have everybody beat (and THAT'S nothing to brag about!!!). I'm still married 24 years, after 22 years without sex! It's been devastating and I think it's basically destroyed me on so many levels. I do not recommend to anyone else staying in a sexless marriage, and I think if one sees any signs of it in their partner before marriage, they should postpone or call off marriage. I saw the signs, but thought it would get better. My husband is basically asexual...and so I'm forced to be too.

[p1955]

I dated of a couple of women that went longer..

[shammon]

Not marid but, i get sick of the barren cycles that can last 12 weeks+, been together for 10 years, I dont understand she climaxes fast, its not fake, she is wet though.. sorry to be graphic but that how I know she enjoys sex. Its just getting there, I feel as if I have to grovel every time, and been rejected a lot also... "not tonight theres a film on I have seen three times before"... After she has reached climax she stops and becomes a sack of spuds, Its a real turn off and I just stop and she goes and showers, I dont reach orgasm every as she is done in less than 10 mins, I also get a ultimatum of 20mins as there is a TV program i want to watch.. as we are laying in bed about to get intimate
Last month I met a women on a date site, we shaged like animals... this is what happens... wheat do they expect? .

[Stabsricter]

I am that kind of husband. I have not touched my wife for almost 2 years. I stopped believing she cared for me and I stopped viewing her as my wife. It is horrible and we both deserve better. I hope things go better for you.

[Msi]

It's the same case for me, my wife comes up with excuses everytime I want to make out.
Don't have any idea what is it going on. And there's no hope in sight

[mikazuki]

I feel you.

[Synergy12]

Totally understand what you mean. It's like somethings wrong with me if I want sex. Don't let me want sex again if zi get it because I want it too much. I never believed cheating was the answer, but isn't sex a normal human need?

[LovePeace]

I needed to hear these words.

[HanibalKing88]

I'm in the same boat and my marriage is about to break. It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong or that she's cheating on me and I'm wasting my time. We have three kids and have been together for almost 8 years married 7. Some one else nailed it on the head that when it happens it's like I'm having sex with a corpes cause she said there doesn't move doesn't make a sound . I'm stressed out beyond belief cause I seriously think shes cheating on me. As of right now my marriage is being held by a thin line and it's ridiculously bad. I want from sex every other night that last and hour or more to not even lasting 2 minutes every other month and I don't finish with her I have to do it on my own cause I can tell she wants nothing to do with it at all. When I question her about it she says she doesn't need sex. And I find that completely off from having crazy sex to dead sex .

[Ninna22]

You have the right to be happy!! Find a lawyer and run away from him

[ThoughtItWasLove]

I am not happy to see people having it worse than me....some way worse. But at least I know I am not alone.

We have been married almost 18 yrs and have 2 wonderful children. When we dated our sex live was pretty good. But for rhe last 15 yrs it has been sporadic ar best. Sometimes when I am “lucky” we have sex once a month, other times we go a couple yrs. “We” are now on a 6 month dry spell. 99% of the time I initiate sex, and 99% of the time I am shot down. And when we do have sex its one position and only on the bed in our room. That is her call...not mine. I light candles, play music, go to dinners. Do all sorts of stuff for her without being asked, and take care of most the house work. I constantly tell her how sexy she is, and how much I want her and love her. I do my beat to treat her like a princess. She is very standoff-ish with me. I feel like I am trying very hard to make things work. I feel like she treats me like less than her, like I am a child.
Recently I went to see a therapists and was diagnosed with severe depression and anxiety. I started medication for it. And the therapist told me that maybe everything isnt my fault, and I need to stop blaming myself.
I feel like I am thinking more clearly now. The therapist wanted her to come too a meeting but she refuses to go. It might be time to leave her. I think if it wasnt for the kids I would have already. So I have considered finding an FWB. I dont want to hurt her, but at this point I dont think she would care. I know if she found out she would be hurt. But how can see not see what the lack of affection and intimacy is doing too me and our marriage?

[justletitbe]

I thought that I was alone.

We have been married for 23 years and have 3 kids.

Our second child was very vocal about how she heard us having sex while my wife was pregnant with our third child and that is the last time we were ever intimate. That was over 16 years ago now.

5 years ago she had both breast cancer and cervical cancer which she completely recovered from, but I think that it is safe to say we will probably never have sex again as no matter what I say or do does not interest her in it at all.

[Chrissd01]

My wife and I have been married going on 8 years. We have been sleeping in anther room and we haven’t had any sex in over a year. These past 6 weeks are no bettter we don’t even hug or kiss each other. I am at a total loss, I don’t even know what to do anymore. So I don’t think it’s stupid at all what your thinking.
You have every right to think the way you are.

[Mariaanire]

I am so sorry you are going through this.