I seriously have thought about writing a book about my marriage - only because it spans 24 years (my entire adult life), many crazy ups and downs, life in four different states, 2 great kids, some good times, but also a whole lot of infidelity, open relationships, verbal/emotional abuse, a little physical abuse, a life-altering bankruptcy, intermittent counseling both individually and together, and finally a separation and pending divorce and all the emotional haywire that goes along with that, and then a panic-induced second thought from me saying
Why can't we work this out? and How can we just throw away a 24 year marriage???... That has been a year and a half ago, and it has been one hard, tumultuous time I have to say. All the things we agreed should be worked on, have not really been worked on. There has been more infidelity, but this time he says it was because I wasn't giving him enough attention/affection (this has been a 20-yr. ongoing issue for us).
Our communication style has always been bad, but I think it has actually gotten worse, to the point where I just don't even want to talk to him... I could go on and on, but ultimately I just wonder if anyone out there has any definite, concrete situations that explain when there really is too much water under the bridge for a marriage to recover from??