Dear DK, My ex husband thinks that it is not appropriate to tell the kids that I miss them on the phone when they are with him. Last night they overheard a child in the background and asked who that was. I told them that I have to borrow other kids to love up on when I didn’t have them. I realize now that that probably wasn’t the right thing to say but I don’t see anything wrong with telling them I miss them. what do you think?
Missing my kids Dear Missing my kids, Well I definitely think it’s a tough place to be, and a fine line to walk. It is tough on us when our kids are away, but we don’t want to make them feel like they are torn between parents. I certainly wouldn’t suggest saying anything that is going to make them feel like they are being “replaced” while they are away, or that you are miserable without them.
Kids placed in these situations feel terrible guilt. They feel bad that they leave Mommy at home alone. They also can feel very left out, especially if you are filling them in on activities or company you are having without them. I would probably steer away from using the words that you miss them and instead tell them how much you love them and that you are looking forward to seeing them on “Tuesday” or whatever day they come back to you. Hope that helps…dk