The ex and I have a very interesting situation since one of our mutual friends is the guy we met through (no, he didn't intentionally introduce us...long story) and this guy's daughters are our daughter's best friends! So, I see him and his wife quite often. And, the ex goes to church with them. I just continued to be me. And, I figured if they shunned me, oh, well. Life goes on. Some people are what I call occasion friends- they are only in your life for a certain amount of time and then they are gone. The occasion they were here for is over. And, then there are some I call foxhole friends. They are there through the rough patches of your life. They come into your life to help you cope. And, then,they seem to drift away.There are some I call the travelers. They travel in and out of your life, coming and going at different times. When you reconnect, it's like they were never gone. And, then there are the for lifers. These are the friends that stick with you through the ups, the downs, the bad, the good....and, no matter how stupid you get, you can't shake them. I've got a one of these who has known me since junior high. She can tell you stories about some of the really stupid things I've done. And, yet she still loves me. Married or divorced-doesn't matter to her. Losing friends over a divorce can be devastating. But, it's not the end of the world. You have to ask yourself- was this person truly my friend, or did he come along with the ex? Perhaps as time goes on, these friends will see him for the ass he is and come begging your forgiveness for not throwing him to the curb. If they don't- are they really the people you want in your life?