Three years ago I married a woman who I had been with for more than a year and people highly recommended to me to date. Yet, 6 weeks after the wedding she announced we had to get divorced and there was no debating it. We hadn't even lived together and the lead up to her declaration I could see she was anxious and depressed. I never cheated, raised my voice, abused her, or misrepresented myself. In fact, within days of the wedding (on the honeymoon no less) she was saying we may have made a mistake. This, after telling people she was so looking forward to getting married just a couple weeks before the wedding and how she couldn't wait to be my wife. We'd made plans on where to live, having kids right away, etc.
I bring this up because I highly suspect she is suffering from a mental illness, perhaps bipolar disorder (also known as manic depression). She once was a happy, homebody early to bed type that people (and I) knew was family oriented into a person who after we separated loved to stay out late and drink. She's since made new friends (with one who became her friend with benefits, now boyfriend) that are trash and fuel this lifestyle. Not only that, she spends money like it's going out of style.
I should have paid closer attention to see how her moods changed dramatically when we were dating and engaged At times, she was go, go, go. Other times, angry at the drop of a hat. Other times, depressed.
I am sorry for all of you going through or having endured a divorce where you have no closure. It's like they were driving down the road and rammed into you in your parked car. They get out and walk away unscathed while you're seriously injured. Except in this case it's your spouse, and then they have the nerve to go to the hospital and tell you it was your fault. Then, they sue for everything and make up stories to blame it on you.