My husband has said that he wants a divorce from me, but that he wants to keep our family together. Without seriously consulting me he applied for a job within his company in another country, which he is interviewing for this week. He wants to get a divorce, but suggested that our son (he's 2) and I move with him and be considered "domestic partners" for the sake of benefits.
The marriage itself has been up and down, and he finally agreed to counseling but is still meeting with lawyers and making all these plans to separate, so I don't know that it's worth it. He said he would rather have a marriage where both of us are free to, essentially, date other people, and that if he "happened to have sex with someone else" that I shouldn't see that as a big deal. I told him that those were terms I couldn't deal with, and he feels then his only option is divorce. But he doesn't want to move away from his son and be alone either, so he proposed this "plan" and argued with me.
This whole thing has me completely thrown off and confused. I know that the kind of relationships he's proposed are not something I want, but I feel pressured to accepting his terms. I feel guilty for my part in the breakdown of our marriage, so I feel tempted to going along with whatever he says because the alternative seems hard too.