Pretty simple question. Has she just gone crazy? At the least she is not thinking with logic. Throw out our issues, the pending divorce, everything. Here is what she is thinking of doing. Most of you know her and her "boyfriend" plan on waiting for our divorce to be final before they move forward with their relationship. I have told my wife, your relationship is doomed to fail. Either it will not work or you will tear your families apart.
We had this conversation yesterday, it came on by a text message my oldest son sent her. He will be 16 tomorrow. Basically he told her he cannot believe she is throwing away a 20 year marriage for some fantasy relationship with a man who lives in Canada. (We live in Arizona, neither him or my wife is planning on moving, it will be a long distance relationship).
My son also said that he does not want (other man) at any of his birthdays, graduation, weddings, anything. He will not travel to see him, in fact, he does not want to meet him, he will not visit my wife if he is around, and will not attend any function that he may be at. I asked my other son (15 in 11 days) how he felt, he said he feels the exact same.
So I talked to my wife, and told her the following. Your relationship is doomed. You will tear your families apart if you move forward. You know how (oldest son) feels, (younger son) feels the exact same. At some point our girls will find out, who knows how they will feel. I have already told you (other man) is not and will never be welcome in my home. Any party, dinner, holiday, function, we celebrate here, he is not welcome. Your father has already said (other man) is not welcome in his home. Your brother has said he will do everything he can to avoid meeting him. I have not talked to your sister, and I won't, so I do not know what her opinion is.
Her reply was, "I am an adult and can make my own decisions. You do not know if this will work or not" So I am asking all of you. Is she being unreasonable, or is she acting normal. Perhaps I am blinded and do not see it as I should, but it seems to me she is willing to risk her kids and her family for an internet/phone relationship with a man whom she may see 7 or 8 times a year. Honest Opinions Please! Your not going to hurt my feelings!