My Ex and I have been divorced for nearly 3 years and he still will not stop controlling me from beyond. Our twins, almost 9, want all of us at their games e.g. me, my husband, and their dad no matter whose day it is. I expressed to them that they need to tell their dad because he has refused to to allow them to play if their step dad is present. My kids love their step dad and express how upset they are that their dad bad mouths him and myself when they are at his home. So the Ex has threatened to remove our daughter from her softball game and never bring her back if I show up with my husband. His own contempt order (I made the mistake of signing her up for sports awhile back without his content) states he is to bring her to activities. It is a public place - can he restrict my husband from watching a public softball game? I'm conflicted because part of me believes he and I should go to the game no matter what the Ex threatens because he needs to get past me remarrying; at the same time, I don't want to hurt Clare if he follows through pulling her out of a game it will either embarrass her or she will go kicking a screaming (also embarrassing). A parent who refuses to take a child to activities is not behaving in the best interest of the child. But am I looking out for my daughter if we go to the game, even though she wants us to, knowing what her dad may do??