The main reason I haven’t left my husband yet is because of our 4 year old son. We don’t fight much, and if we do it’s never in front of him. I’m not going to go into why I want a divorce (I’ll get to that later) but I have some questions regarding how my son will be affected.
My husband and I have already talked about how if we do divorce, it will be a clean one. I truly want happiness for him. We said we will remain civil about everything and I believe that’s what will happen…that’s just who we are. I think we’d have joint custody and make everything equal.
But I want to know how divorce has personally affected your kids? I’ve done research on this and I always read some scary statistics about kids who’s parents divorced…but I’m wondering if those type of websites if been looking at are just very anti divorce in any situation and maybe they’re just looking at only the extreme cases. Growing up I saw some of my friends go through the divorce of their parents. They were sad about it but we’re still good kids, good students and didn’t seemed traumatized by it (from the outside at least.)
I know every situation is different though. I know life will be much harder and lonelier for me…and it will hurt have to share time with my child. But if it’s a civil divorce, how traumatizing could it be for our kid? And at 4 years old, does he even understand? How did your kids handle the divorce?