While I wish I could say things have gotten easier in this topic, it has gotten worse. My husband's ex-wife is doing everything in her power to get rid of me. She hates that I have any say/ involvement in my step daughters life and tries to dictate what I'm allowed to do, say, post when it comes to her. My husband and his ex have had zero communication in the past years (since their divorce) and the minute I entered into the picture, she has been wanting a "co parenting" relationship with him. In her mind, co parenting is when ONLY the mother and father still continue to do all the parenting (when they never did it before) and not allowing the step parents to be involved in anyway. I grew up in a blended/ co parenting household and all parties were involved, and that's what made it so great! So to me, co parenting, is when all parties have an open line of communication and work together to make things feel welcoming for the child(ren). I think the step parents should not over step their boundaries, and should absolutely follow the lead of which ever parent they are with, but they also have a sense of comfort in knowing that they are a part of the child(ren's) life. In my eyes co parenting is not a way for one parent to gain access or control over the other parent. I'd love to hear others thoughts on this matter. Thank you!