I have an ex husband who abused me and uses my daughters innocence to give him personal and private information about me. He lives in a different state and I do allow phone calls. But it must be on speaker or loud enough that I can hear him. I dont tell my daughter what to say nor even speak with him. My daugther is 8 years old. My ex says I'm envadeing his privacy when he calls. Yet he talks to our daugther asking about who I'm dateing. Asks about mommy's new bfs name. When is mommy at work?.
Now he did this when I did allow him to speak with her with no ease dropping. He knows alot about my personal life and ex friends that I no longer talk to now know all about it. I fell so violated.
In conclusion. I will monitor the calls till my daughter is about 12-13. Or when she is old enough to understand my privacy and she knows how to defend herself from being used for information.