I have been with my boyfriend for 8 months. We are pretty serious and in the future plan on getting married. EVERYTHING is wonderful beside his ex wife texting ALL the time. They have two children together, 10 & 12. They have joint custody and gets them every weekend. The schedule changes from time to time and this time I THOUGHT it would be better and she wouldn’t text him all the time.
At first I didn’t think this would be an issue because the girls are older and they have been divorce for 6 years but that is not the case. She text/calls him EVERY day about EVERY little thing…regarding the children or how stressed out she is about this or that. I have tried to accept it, tried to ignore it, and now here I am.
I don’t know what to do or how to feel. We have talked about this and discussed it in depth but nothing seems to change. When it first became a problem he asked her to quit calling and texting so much and she did…for a week. Last night his phone died while we were out and when we got back to my place, he charged his phone and when it came back on he had 15 text messages from her. He never hides anything from me and usually it is about the children but I just don’t understand why she feels like she needs to text him every day.
I don’t have children from my previous marriage but I do understand why they need to be cordial to each other…for the childrens sake. I also understand that plans need to be arranged for the weekend but why not call or text on a Friday and arrange that?
Am I being to sensitive or overreacting? I just figured that since the children are older (and have their own cell phones) why can’t the children contact him during the week if they need something?? .Any advice would be appreciative! Thanks