So here is my dilemma, if it really is one. I have been in a relationship for about 3 months now with someone I’ve known for about 3 years. He is divorced a year but is still friends with his ex wife. They have 3 kids together ages 21, 13, and 11. His ex wife also has bipolar disorder which is a big part of why they divorced. He also said that he felt like he was married to a good friend and not someone he was in love with. They were married for 15 years. Ok so that was some history.
Now that we have been in a relationship for a few months now I am noticing that the ex wife calls him for and about everything. Anywhere from one of the kids throwing a fit in the store to her dating and who she is dating when etc… He says that even though they are not together they are still friends and it doesn’t bother him when she talks about this stuff because he is over her.
My thing is- You are with someone now and that means the simple non important phone calls and texting should stop. If she is your ex then she needs to be your ex. Understanding they have children together but why is she calling about every little thing with the kids. These kids are old enough to call their dad if they have problems, she seems to call about everything non urgent or important. Like one of the kids are were hurting at 3am but they ended up being okay and went back to sleep, just thought I would tell you.
I don’t want to sound like a jealous ninny but it is really frustrating when you are trying to spend time together or alone and all of the sudden there is a voicemail or text message about NOTHING important! Am I overreacting?? Maybe it’s because they were together for so long that it is hard to break old habbits?? But it almost feels like he has two relationships going on.