Background: the ex was diagnosed years ago with bi-polar, OCD, anxiety and other ailments. She changes therapists about every 6M. She has always had other's watch the children, nannies, baby sitters & daycare providers. Separated 2 years ago, officially moved out April 2017. She met and man and moved him in the same day (online relationships) Since then she has called Child Protective Services 10 times (all issues were unfounded), attempted a Protection Order (but was dropped because the judge found her unreliable), and now were in the process of custody which has been dragged out by her lawyer for over a year. My question: Is there anyone out there that has dealt with this type of issue? Someone that is willing to do anything to disparage the other parent and anyone associated with that parent Everything I've read about dealing with BPD is about creating boundaries, but it's hard when that other parent is constantly attempting to alter schedules, shows up at school doing the other parenting time (is currently the classroom parent, yet only goes on the days assigned to the other parent), and is signing up the kids for events during the other parent's time share. She was able to use her religion to sway the judge, so everything is surrounded by the religion. EG. she signed them up for Choir practice which is after religious school, but it's not technically apart of the the school. So we've said NO to that. The kids already are in school from 830-1230 and that would extend their time till 2pm. While it's fine if that's what she wants. She clearly can't handle all three kids and needs to "get rid" of one to manage the others. But we use Sunday's as family time and this infringes upon that time. What can be said, or what should be done?