Are You Dating A Divorced Man? Know What You are Getting Into

If you are dating a divorced man with children, you need to fully understand what you are getting yourself into. It irks me when women date a divorced man and then complain that their boyfriend is paying too much child support and alimony. Give me a break. You have to expect that if your boyfriend has an ex-wife and kids, he must fulfill his financial and parental obligations to his first family.

Dating a divorced man is not like dating a man who has never been married before. Many women knowingly date these men and then get upset when he does not have the money or the time to spend on them. Any decent man will put his kids first before your relationship. If you are not willing to accept the baggage that comes with dating a divorced man you should date someone who has never been married. Here are few things to expect while dating a divorce man:

  1. Unless he is wealthy, he will have less money to spend on dinners out, vacations and other luxuries.

  2. He will be spending time with his children. If you want him all to yourself, you are out of luck.

  3. He must deal with his ex-wife when it comes to raising his children. You need to accept her as part of his life and get over your resentment.

Finally, if you plan on marrying a divorced man and want to have children, do not complain that there will be less money for your household because he pays child support. You knew about his obligations to his children before you married him. Also be aware that you will have a whole new set of issues with step children. There is nothing wrong with dating a divorced man and you can have a wonderful relationship, if you go into it with your eye wide open and know what to expect.

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I whole heartedly agree men (and women) should pay child support and such. BUT I also see people running with it as well. When I married K I thought it was great that he not only had his kids all the time, but he NEVER had any problems handing money over for thier needs and care. But When I started seeing that she wasnt contributing her share to the kids then using them for more… things got a bit rough. The kids were wearing grandmas hand me downs and no coats but she was going on ALOT of trips with friends. When I felt bad and bought them a few outfits with my own money and she had the balls to demand I give up the reciepts so she could take them back and use the money for her own needs. I got pissed. When I went 2 winters with out heat so she could get her BOAT FIXED, Go on a cruise, spend the holidays in NEW YORK CITY. Yeah I can see why some people complain. Even more sadly though, through all of it I would have not minded as long as the kids had what they needed and not been the least bit bitchy about going with out. The kids have been little more than pawns to a better pay day and yet she has had no time for them as they were not allowed here (her words) but they instead got pawned off on anyone who would take them. The kids can be manipulative as she is at times and after years of being used as live bait, Well lets see who they grow into. But I can honestly say after seeing all this and going through this I now think twice when I hear a man being bashed for walking away from thier kids. I know I will catch hell for that but. What situation is better for them when you go with out, do everything you can and still are nothing but a plane ticket and a disrespected pawn? I keep my mouth shut and I also keep my money in MY OWN wallet. I will just spend my money on my own kids and thats it!

Well. I married my prior divorced daddy of 3 and I have 1 of my own. He had an ex from hell. And I am in total agreement he sure should pay support, my childs bio dad is at $50,000.00 behind and Indiana sucks in trying to accomplish anything in the child support division. Anyway now I realize why his ex was from hell because he almost sent me there too. He brcame verbally and physically abusive. When the verbal abuse started getting aimed towards my daughter thats when I drew the line. My advice if you are going to marry a divorced man with kids , do your homework, an extremely bitter ex has her reasons. I’d consider seeking counseling before making a commitment.Now I get to look foward to a divorce. But at least my daughter and I live in peace now without yelling and abuse,

Well my ex’s girlfriend definitely doesn’t need to be mad about the spending time with kids part–becuz my ex no longer gets them for visitation anymore. After he moved in with the tramp he no longer picks them up for weekend visits, instead he comes during the week (every other week) takes them out to dinner and spends a whole hour with them–dad of the freakin’ year!! NOT!! So the only thing she can bitch about is the no money thing–becuz he’s paying support and after I get thru with him on the sale of this house–he’ll be taking the loss on our house to which will leave him in the hole big time and gee–do ya think she’ll want to pay to get him out of debt!! Don’t think so!! Better luck to her, becuz I’m glad I’m thru with his sorry ass, just wish I was done with him forever!! They both cheated on their spouses to be together and now they are --so more power to them!!