Hello, I just joined this tonight. I have been divorced for five years and have two teenage boys. I have 50-50 custody and every week when the boys come with me, they are far behind in school because their dad did not monitor. So I spend my week is getting them caught up from the week before, while also trying to stay current. I send reminders To the boys and their dad homework that needs to get done during his week and still doesn’t get done. My son needed to register for a very Important test while at his dads. They both knew it and again it didn’t get done and so now my son, took class for this test has to wait until February to take the test. Our parenting plan says homework needs to be done before they transition the other parents house.
We also agreed that at the end of each month we would settle expenses. In October, when he owed me over $2000, and hadn’t settled for the whole year, I had to tell him I was going to take him to small claims court in order for him to pay it. That took care of things.
Tonight, when I took my son to his hockey game I got a text from his dad asking if he was playing. When I asked why he wouldn’t be, he said because he stayed home from sick the last two days from school. But of course I had no idea.
I’m so angry and frustrated and now debating whether or not I should take him back to court for full custody because of his lack of responsibility in being a good father.