Dear Ex, Let me start off by saying, Thank you soo much for leaving me. I cannot begin to tell you how grateful I am that you were strong enough to walk out the door two years ago. The reason I thank you is I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. I thought I would never see it...that I would die if you didnt come back to me. Boy was I wrong!
Today, I am stronger and more independent than I ever thought I could be. I am a mother, a teacher, a home owner, a friend, a sister, a daughter, a colleague. I smile, I laugh, I cook, I clean, I dance, I have fun, I work. I do all this as I remember how grateful I am to open my eyes each morning and embrace a new day surrounded by people who love me and whom I love very much. I remember that I am a smart, independent woman with an excellent career. I am responsible enough to maintain a home and care for my child. I clean the pool by myself and never once this summer did it turn green. I cook dinner for my family and smile when they tell me I am a good cook. I maintain the home...gardener, pool maintenance, putting out the garbage, paying the utilities and keeping current on all appliance warranties (not cheap by the way), I leased a car in my own name, and I make sure that my daughter is experiencing new things as often as possible.
Since you left....I lost weight, I go to the gym, I have backyard swim parties at night, I go out with friends, I dance when no one is looking, I put on make up, I have dinner parties, I go to the movies and most importantly I push myself to be the best person I can be. I relish in the fact that I am a hard worker and will one day have the home of my dreams with a barn and horses in the back. I am not afraid of struggling as I've made it through many hard times and think I turned out pretty good! Struggling only reminds me to work harder. Seems I forgot how to work hard during our years together....hhhmmm?
Mostly I am proud for always putting my daughter first, for remembering that she didnt ask to be part of a divorced family..that she is 4 years old and deserves to be loved by both her parents. While sharing her is hard, I am proud of myself for doing it with dignity even when I feel like smashing your face in. I am proud for keeping my cool when things dont go my way even though you probably think I am acting irrational. I am proud that my daughter's happiness means more to me than my own.
By the way I am really proud that I didnt slap you across the face when you said you have the divorced dad's schedule and acted like that was enough. I dont want you to take her because I want to go out, I want you to take her because she loves and misses you and sometimes you forget SHE is your daughter not your girlfriend's kids. I am proud that I want to be the exception, not the rule! I promise to work hard for the rest of my life to make sure that I am the EXCEPTION even if you want to be the rule. Everything I do in my life from here on in is to assure a better life for my daughter. With my last breathe I will make sure that she is happy and gets all that she deserves.
Now I turn the page and begin to fill out the next chapter of my life. A life filled with a wonderful daughter, supportive family, old friends and new friends....all puzzle pieces that fit together so perfectly to make my life complete. Thank you again for leaving and for reminding me that I was losing touch with the person I was before I met you....a person I much rather be. It feels good to be her again....no actually it feels great! Good bye and best of luck to you! Your Ex Wife